The entire group of volunteers and law enforcement officer who were conducting a massive manhunt for a missing Wisconsin college student and her abductor found out last week that they were duped.
The Associated Press reported that the police looking for the kidnapper of Audrey Seiler, a 20-year-old University of Winsconsin-Madison sophomore, had concluded the girl had made the story up. Police said Seiler even confessed. "I set up everything. I'm just so messed up. I'm sorry," she said.
Though she later recanted her confession, police still said they had evidence that the young woman made the story up to get the attention of her boyfriend because she found out he was writing another woman e-mails with "romantic overtones."
Someone really should have talked some sense into this young woman. When Seiler admitted that she was "messed up," she wasn't kidding.
I know Seiler's case isn't indicative of the way all women behave in relationships, but it is an example of a woman with serious problems. When she suspected her boyfriend of cheating or flirting with another woman, she felt the need to fake her own kidnapping to keep his attention.
I don't know what kind of Superman this boyfriend must have been to warrant such an elaborate ruse, but I really doubt he was worth it. She should have kicked this guy to the curb.
I have seen some men become very dependent on their significant other, but it seems that it happens more with women. And in 2004, that's unacceptable.
When a young woman like Seiler is faced with a problem with her boyfriend, she should tell him to get his act together or drop him. There are so many women out there like Seiler who aren't treated right by their men. They're doormats? but they shouldn't be.
This kind of extreme dependence is what leads some women to stay in an abusive relationship.
I'm not saying Seiler's boyfriend was abusive, but she at least felt that he wasn't treating her the way she deserved to be treated. I'm no expert on the feminist movement, but with all the progress women have made, it's troubling that there are still women out there who latch on to their men and won't let go for anything.
I know that many women in abusive relationships suffer from low self-esteem or other problems, and I'm not trying to blame them. Maybe some of them just need a friend or loved one to confront them and tell them that they deserve better.
No woman should have to suffer through an abusive relationship. And no woman should ever feel that they have to fake their own abduction to get their man's attention. Ladies, no man is worth your self-respect.
Billy Corriher covers politics and government for the News Daily. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or (770) 478-5753 Ext. 281.