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Knowing when to call it quits - Kathy Jefcoats

I used to like Whoopi Goldberg but I can't remember why now. I do remember the moment I stopped appreciating her work as an artist. I was working at Books-A-Million when her autobiography was released. I snatched up a copy and turned to the first page. All I remember is that she went on and on about farting. It was not funny and not what I expected from a woman of her position in the entertainment industry. I closed the book, put it back on the shelf and have not spent another minute on her whether on television or in movies.

If someone makes me mad enough or acts in a way I don't like, I can turn my back on him or her for good, just like switching off a light. I am not one to hang on to a relationship with anyone if I have become dissatisfied or disillusioned. I don't know where that ability comes from and am not sure if it is a positive or negative attribute.

I had to turn my back on Harrison Ford, an actor I loved and admired for years, when he took up with Calista Flockhart. What is he thinking? He looks ridiculous with her, he's just about old enough to be her grandfather. I know it is his business but I can't watch him anymore knowing the choice he has made in his personal life. The same was true when the late Michael Landon left his wife and children and took up with a younger woman. It just put me off him.

It is also the same with entertainers who support political candidates or issues I oppose. I have listened to John Mellencamp for years and saw him in concert but knowing he backs John Kerry leaves me with no choice but to kick him to the curb with the rest of the Bush-bashers. What is amazing to me is how easily I can do it. I won't miss him or Harrison or Whoopi anymore than I missed Landon. I guess my devotion wasn't that deep.

I just can't see supporting someone financially n through buying music or movie tickets n when I know that person is working against someone or something I believe in.

I also don't understand people who refuse to leave a relationship n and the fan-entertainer connection is a relationship of sorts, just ask any freaky stalker caught wearing a star's underwear while standing in said star's kitchen eating pickles from a jar. A "Seinfeld" episode had George dating a woman who refused his breakup. She wanted to keep working on the relationship but he wanted to end it. She kept coming over to his house, pretending they were still a couple. It drove him nuts. Maybe that was the point.

Anyway, I know a guy who had to have a hanger-on evicted from his house. He'd lived with this woman who, as my brother-in-law says, has snakes in her head, for six years. They moved in together after Georgia repealed the common-law statute so unless they married, they were just two people living together without claims on each other. No one in his family liked her or could get along with her. He had been trying to break up with her for several years but she had some hold on him that only men understand.

He told her in front of his family to get out of his house. She refused. Flat refused. I have never n except for "Seinfeld" n have never heard of a person insisting upon staying where he or she is not wanted. So he finally served her with eviction papers. Amazing. She wanted to fight it, claiming the common-law situation but his family had documented proof as to when they moved in together. A judge told her to get out and she left.

I don't get that. I have no intention of staying anywhere I am not welcome. I certainly wouldn't stay with someone who told me in front of witnesses he wanted me out of his home. As my kids used to say, "You don't have to tell me two times."

Kathy Jefcoats is a staff writer covering public safety in Henry County. She can be reached at kjefcoats@henryherald.com or at (770) 957-9161.