In life, it's hard to be tolerant, understanding, and respectful even when you feel like you've been cheated. Whether you feel like you're getting sold out by a friend or shortchanged by some sober bartender, reactionary emotions inevitably surface.
You may be sitting on the barstool leaning over an empty glass. So you tap on the bar to ask customarily for another drink. Suddenly, the bartender casts a sharp eye and when that glass comes back, it looks only half as full as it was the first time you ordered.
These kind of things push you beyond rationality. Rage becomes understandable and acceptable behavior. Next thing you know you're reaching over the bar to pound the screwhead who poured the drink. This happens to even the most even-keeled person once or twice in life.
Feeling betrayed and reacting is only human. What's important is that a person not allow the reaction to set a precedent for their overall attitude toward one particular thing. Once you get done with that drink, maybe leave the bar before they have to sic the dogs on you.
But just because the bartender shortchanged you one time, don't abandon the bar altogether. Stick with it. You'll get a full drink next time.
These thoughts came as I laid awake and really began to ponder the possibility that Gucci Mane, the rapper recently accused of a killing in DeKalb County, could have done what he did. Guilt rippled through me.
When someone you look up to and respect is accused of something like murder, you should stand up for them.
But the day the news came to me more than two weeks ago, I didn't do that for the guy whose "pockets are so heavy he can't even walk straight."
Instead, I thought he was lying. I didn't admit it to friends. I told them I thought he was innocent.
But deep down I felt betrayed. And at the same time, I was betraying him.
I was angry when I heard the news. I kicked my television. I emptied all the change and wadded bills from my pocket. I took off my gold chains. Why would Gucci Mane do something like this? I was furious and I swore that I would never listen to another Gucci record again.
But that was just the reaction. Later, I realized that I enjoyed Mane's music and shouldn't just give up on him for one indiscretion of which I didn't even really know the details.
I decided to trust Gucci Mane, knowing he probably had his own reasons for allegedly shooting someone.
And if he didn't want to tell me why, I would be tolerant until he did.
Justin Boron is the government reporter for the News-Daily. His column appears Monday. He can be reached at 770-478-5753 or firstname.lastname@example.org .