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I miss my words - Jason A. Smith

I've been married for nearly 3 1/2 years now. In that time - and even before we got together - my wife and I have gone through some amazing times in our relationship.

We started out as "just friends," and eventually became best friends before we ever went on our first official date.

But something that was happening even then, and has only grown to be more of a regular occurrence with time, is how many sentences I have started, but have never actually finished, because she finished them for me.

Before I go any further, allow me to clarify something. It was never a case of my not getting a word in edgewise, when we would talk. We have always had a good relationship, when it comes to our ability to communicate with each other. It's just that, many times, she seems to know what I'm trying to communicate before I do.

I started to really notice this phenomenon one year when she and I were taking a trip to Savannah. She was much more familiar with the route than I was, even though I was driving, so I was relying on her to guide me where I needed to go.

As we were driving in the dead of night down Interstate 16 - which I affectionately termed the Black Hole of Death because of how little civilization was visible along that stretch of road at night - she and I weren't saying much. After about 10 minutes of comfortable silence, I thought to ask her this question: "So, um, how much further until we have to get onto Interstate 95?"

However, I only got as far as "So, um ..." before she quickly interjected that we had about 11 miles to go, before we needed to make the exact turn I was going to ask about. I spent the next couple of miles driving with my mouth wide open in abject confusion.

Ever since that night several years ago, I think I've probably finished a total of five sentences I've started while in her presence. OK, so maybe that's a bit of an exaggeration, but the fact remains - she has always seemed to know what I was thinking, and has been able to finish my sentences more often than not.

This used to bother me a bit. Truth be told, it used to drive me crazy. Every time I would have a thought of any kind, she knew exactly where I was going with it.

In fact, she usually got to where I was going in much more succinct fashion than I would have, as I have a tendency to ramble. As a side note, I must say I think this is one of the reasons I love writing so much - because I can be relatively sure that I will be able to finish the sentences I start.

At any rate, as my wife and I have continued along in our journey as a married couple, something strange has happened. I've grown to enjoy how she finishes my sentences. In many ways, I've come to expect it, because I've had a few years to get used to the idea.

I've even been able to finish her thoughts a few times. One of our favorite ways to entertain people is for one of us to start a sentence, and have the other continue it, thus beginning a verbal tennis match which goes on for minutes at a time.

I'm not sure exactly how, or when, this whole sentence-finishing thing started, or what happened to change my attitude toward it. But the bottom line for me is, there's something very comforting about knowing there's someone in this world who knows me that well, and I want to spend the rest of my life exploring that more fully.

That being said, I'm still going to stick with my writing as long as possible. After all, when it comes to putting together stories and columns, I'm usually able to say more than "So, um ..."

Jason A. Smith covers crime and courts for the Henry Daily Herald. He can be reached via e-mail at jsmith@henryherald.com.