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Have you ever heard the phrase, Opposites attract? I really think its true. And I always wonder why there has to be one of EACH in every marriage or friendship.
One person is an extrovert loves to be out among em, high-energy, talking and socializing and the other is quieter, more of an introvert, whose idea of a great evening is to stay home and read or watch TV.
One persons idea of a great vacation is to go to a nice hotel, eat at restaurants, and see the sights and the other one loves nothing more than roughing it in a tent and getting lots of dirt under his or her fingernails. One person is ultra-organized, papers filed, socks neatly folded and arranged by color, and the other has stuff everywhere and can never find the keys.
AND one person always turns the lights off, and the other person leaves them on. See?
I think theres a very simple reason why opposites attract. Each of us has strengths and weaknesses, and we tend to marry or build relationships with people who are strong where were not. Were probably not aware this is what were doing, but we are.
Weaknesses arent necessarily sin; were just stronger in some areas than in others. So we need help. And we can help the other person where theyre weak. Its a GOOD thing. But then, however, we fight about it!
Churches are the same way. Jesus says, If two of you agree together about anything you ask, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven. Quite a promise! But Jesus could make that promise with confidence. Getting two Christians to agree about anything is almost impossible!
We have a hard time finding a way to disagree and still stay together. In fact, whole new denominations have been formed because of ONE area of disagreement or another. If the world will know were Christians by the love we have for each other, its hard to imagine what folks think when they see us fighting as much as we do.
It seems to be difficult for us to accept others as they are. Instead of being thankful that theyre weak where were strong, and we can help them, we criticize them. We cant forgive others when WE feel criticized. We hold grudges, and that leads to bitterness.
I John 1:6 calls this walking in darkness. And John says clearly that walking in darkness will affect not only our relationships with each other, but also with God. And if we say that everythings all right, when it really isnt, well then, were liars, and the truth is not in us.
This is serious business.
John makes a strong contrast between walking in the light and walking in darkness. God is light; in God, theres no darkness at all. If our relationships are broken, if our heart is dark, we cant be walking with God. God is perfect light, and our sin is darkness. But this is where John offers such beautiful hope and truth.
According to John, if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just and will forgive our sins, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
If youve ever undergone radiation, you know that before the treatments start, the doctor will mark the exact place thats cancerous, sometimes with a magic marker, so the technician will know exactly where to send the radiation. Thats what its like when we confess our sins. Were coming to God in humility and honesty to say, Heres my sin. And heres what it is. Im angry and hurt and theres hatred in my heart and I need your help.
This is the beginning! Were opening the door so that Gods pure and perfect light can get in, bringing healing, warmth, and comfort. We get so ashamed of our sin that, sometimes, we cant stand to open the door, expecting to be shamed and scolded. But we have an advocate Jesus Christ the righteous, who is the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Hes perfect light, and perfect compassion. Were the blessed recipients of all that grace and love.
All thats asked of us is honesty. When were walking in darkness, we have to be willing to open the door and show God the truth, and talk to him about it. In a word
confess. When we let God in, he brings light and healing NEVER condemnation. If we truly believe in Gods grace through Jesus, we can receive his forgiveness and light.
This restores our relationship with God, and also our relationships with others. My prayer is that the day will come when the world will look at the church and see Gods love through the grace and forgiveness we offer to each other, as we leave the darkness and come into the light.
Rev. Susan Bennett is pastor of Stockbridge Presbyterian Church. She and her husband live in Stockbridge with two giant Rottweilers and a 15-pound rescue dog who is the boss of everybody.